Messages in a bottle: gaining wisdom

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Over the past few months, I have been going through a metamorphosis. I even cut my hair, something I vowed to not do again.  While growth is slowly happening, it is happening. In a few short months God willing I will be 33 years old seriously and I have come to accept a few things as fact.

#1 Sometimes you have to meet people where they are
Not all of the people in your life are on the same level as you. Some of them may be ahead of you in the game or as if often the case when you come to this decision way behind you. If the person is worth continuing a relationship with, you have to accept them for who they are and K.I.M. They are who they are and chances are they won’t be changing. If it means that you deal with them for certain things so be it. Stop stressing who they are and focus on who you want to be.

#2 The grass is NOT greener on the other side
Folks always want what they don’t have because someone else has it and told them that it was grand. Only in fairytales is this true. Rather than trying to keep up with everyone else, try keeping up with yourself. One person’s version of happiness will not be yours. Your homegirl may be living on cloud nine with her picket fence and the likes whereas you may be miserable. If it meant for you to have it than God will gift it to you. Stop stressing and let God bless you in His own time in His own way.

#3 It is okay to worry about self
As the oldest child, whether on purpose or not, it was beat into me sometimes literally that I had a responsibility to look out for my younger siblings. In college, worrying about others cause me problems. It is probably one of the reasons why I am a hypochondriac self-diagnosed. I have come to accept that worrying does no one any good. Rather, when faced with a problem the best thing to do is take it to God. And if you are going to worry so much about someone else make sure that you are exuding that much worry over self too. No one is more important than you.

#4 Paying it forward is a must
“To whom much is given, much is required.” Those words should be a part of your daily mantra. While charity begins at home, it should not stop there. Charity can be as simple as giving up your seat on the train. The truth is that if everyone had the mentality to help someone else we would not see such high levels of poverty. Give a little and receive a lot.

#5 Eat, Pray, Love
The movie was excellent and should be the guide to life. Food nourishes the body. Prayer nourishes the soul. Love nourishes the heart. Together all three of these things make you a stronger person. You should try it.

#6 Actions speak louder than words
While you may not have meant anything by your actions that may not be another’s impressions. While God judges us by our intentions us mortals inly have the ability to judge our actions and those speak louder than words. It is not your intentions to make someone feel like they don’t matter…speak to them and let them know. Wars have been started because someone thought something and no communication occurred. Always think before you act. Wear that other shoe.

#7 What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger
The Almighty promised us that He wouldn’t put a burden on us greater than we can bear. Of course, it seems like our load is heavy and we can’t go on. Worry not, He will get you through whatever troublesome journey you are on. Have faith and He will see you through. Think Footprints…Through difficult times He is carrying you.

#8 Treat yourself
As women, we are trained from the womb to do for others yet we fail to do for ourselves. Make sure to make time to get that pedicure. Better yet, go for a message and let Calgon take you away in the form of fingertips. Buy a new outfit. Something pretty and flirty. There is only one of you. Make sure to take care of you.

#9 Patience is a virtue
While things may not come when you want it, they always come when you need it. Have faith that when it is your time you will get what you need. Remember that sometimes what we want is not what we need. We should always trust the Almighty to give us what is best for us.

#10 Forgiveness is for you
Forgiving someone is not the easiest thing to do but it is the best thing to do. Holding on to disappointment, hurt, anger is tiresome and toxic. Rather it is best to forgive the one who has wronged you and K.IM. Your body will appreciate it. Besides, just because you have forgiven them does not mean that you should forget. You don’t even have to continue being in their life.

It is amazing what you come to grasp as you get older. The funny thing is that a lot of it was shared with your younger self yet you refused to accept it as truth. Realizing your own truths is a part of growing up. What truths have you realized?

Thought for the day: “Wisdom does not come with age, it comes with mistakes made.” ~ Joshua Neal Harty



About Divine*Pearlz

As one of my good friends, Carrie Pink (from says, I am a modern day superwoman. In the midst of me being a superwoman I am really down to earth once you get to know me. I love life and try to always live it to the fullest. I love God and try to always honor Him. I am service oriented after all I am a Finer Woman. I love health and have made it my mission in life to pursue degrees that will put me in a position to fight for better health policies for my people. All in all, I'm just me. You can take it or leave it!
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