Greener pastures

With the day that I had yesterday I was very quiet and just reflected while listening to music. During this reflective mood that I was in Jazmine Sullivan’s song, “In love with another man.” While listening to this song my thought led me to a question that I had never pondered but I’m sure someone out there has.  I wondered whether someone had met a person in their lifetime who could had potential to be their soul mate? While they were not the dictionary version of perfect what human being be it man or woman is they were damn near close. Close enough that whatever little idiosyncracies they possessed could be overlooked. Sounds perfect to me. But holdup even though they met your version of perfection there was something that couldn’t be overlooked… you are both involved. In today’s time where morals and things such as being faithful regardless of anything some wouldn’t think this is a problem. seeing as how you do believe in this and so does he a rare find indeed  I guess he is not so perfect after all. But then again he really is, it is just that in the cosmic flow of things your stars are not aligned. How do you go on? Do you extricate yourself from your present situation hoping that he feels the same way and does the same thing. That’s the question of the century which leads to the next question, is it really greener on the other side?

 Most of us at some point have heard the statement when we are wishing for something that someone else has that the pastures may not be greener on the other side. Usually, it said to us because that ugly green-eyed demon named jealousy is rearing its ugly head and those around us can see it. But what if it has nothing to do with jealousy or any of those other deadly sins and all to do with happiness. Do you bring it to this potential soul mates attention that you feel cosmically connected to him and in spite of both of your situations you are willing to take a risk to see if it is greener with him?

Just as I pose the question to you I posed the question to myself. While I am not sure if I actually met my soul mate it is possible that I could have met a potential. As my Facebook status references my relationship is complicated that is a discussion for another day‘ which if I knowingly experienced this should be easy as pie…right? You could be furthest from the truth. Like most people I have seen some serious ish in my life which has molded me. Some may classify me as cold because of it but truth be told I am scared trust me I am no punk. Why would I step foot into the unknown taking the chance that it may be worse than what I already have. I mean wouldn’t that make me foolish. It always goes back to that greener pasture. Quite frankly, I am not so sure that the other side is greener or for even the same green as where I stand.

Like most women I too am guilty of creating happily ever after in my mind. As a woman of color I have been gifted with a blessing of endurance from my ancestors so that I may bear all trial and tribulation really God gave the gift that may come my way. While this a gift it is just as much a curse. It allows one to create tales of one day this will happen and one day he will realize. It’s almost like tales of grandeur. Creating what really doesn’t exist. The fact remains that while all of this is actually possible it probably not probable. Maybe he will do these things but it won’t be in your lifetime. Could be you’re not his soul mate and therefore there is cosmic reason for him to change. It’s times like this that one must remember that indeed were gifted with the ability to bear all trials and tribulations. After all as cliché as it may sound, God won’t place a burden on us greater than we can bear.

So with that being said, next time you happen to come across your potential soul mate and you know that person who you are dealing with isn’t your soul mate don’t be afraid to step out and pursue. You never know the other side may be greener that what they say. If it doesn’t work at least you will know that you tried and nothing beats a failure but a try.

QOTD: Is where you stand really that green?

Until next time…




About Divine*Pearlz

As one of my good friends, Carrie Pink (from says, I am a modern day superwoman. In the midst of me being a superwoman I am really down to earth once you get to know me. I love life and try to always live it to the fullest. I love God and try to always honor Him. I am service oriented after all I am a Finer Woman. I love health and have made it my mission in life to pursue degrees that will put me in a position to fight for better health policies for my people. All in all, I'm just me. You can take it or leave it!
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