Friends on Memory Lane

Recently, I received a tex from one of my many sisters asking if I thought she was self-righteous. Being the honest self-righteous person that I am I told her that she could be however; I either bring her back to earth or I ignore her. I mean seriously, there are worst things that one can be. Her being self-righteous just isn’t that big of a deal to me. Honestly, it’s really wasn’t that big of a deal to her until one particular person pointed it out to her. I know what you’re thinking…man problems. *Sigh* I wish it were that simple. Actually, it was girl problems and no she’s not gay. My sister is a beautiful, intelligent, goal oriented person who is pursuing her degree. Truth is she’s going places and her time is filled with busy people things. Like most adults whose life resembles hers…she’s busy. Apparently, she’s too busy for one of her girlfriends from way back when.

Now you would think that her girlfriend has idle time on her hand. Sorry, that just isn’t the case. Truthfully, it is a case of we’re grown and no longer have anything in common. Sound familiar. Guys say it all the time. The friends that they had when they were 2 are the same friends that they have at 35. For some unexplainable reason, guys know how to keep friends. On the flip side a woman can go through friends like they do panties. One would think that this phenomenon changes as they get older. *Sigh* unfortunately, that is just not the case. Out of all of the friends that I had pre-college days only 1 is still around. Now I know you think that I got into a terrible argument with the rest but sorry to disappoint that’s not even how it went down. Truth is we just….drifted….apart. As I got older my priorities changed and unfortunately, they were no longer a part of those new found set of priorities.   The same could be said for some of the friends that I made during college. It’s like a relationship, I have love for you but I am no longer in love with you.

Women are very practical when it comes to relationships with our friends. For us there is no two way street. We are either all going the same way or you’re getting off at the next stop and see you when we see you. Women truly believe in having friends for different reasons and when that reason no longer exist then there’s truly no reason to continue cultivating that friendship. Now you may think that we are using the other person but honestly, it’s not like that. We care about you and may even still like you but once the glue stops sticking we just stop trying.

Do you think you’re a bad friend because you no longer call your friend? You’re not. It’s just that you’ve moved on and no longer share the same common ground. If it’s really bothering you call that friend and see if a new common ground can be found. If not then chalk it up to a friend who you needed at the time that you needed them but no longer need them. After all, nothing in life is constant. Unfortunately, sometimes that includes relationships too.

To my friends you know who you are…I love you. To everyone else….I guess your number got pulled and that common ground is gone. Maybe we’ll try to find a new one otherwise it’s been real.


About Divine*Pearlz

As one of my good friends, Carrie Pink (from says, I am a modern day superwoman. In the midst of me being a superwoman I am really down to earth once you get to know me. I love life and try to always live it to the fullest. I love God and try to always honor Him. I am service oriented after all I am a Finer Woman. I love health and have made it my mission in life to pursue degrees that will put me in a position to fight for better health policies for my people. All in all, I'm just me. You can take it or leave it!
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