Girl Talk: Checking the Baggage

If you work in an environment where computers are a big part of work getting done you are bound to have a day when no work gets done because the computers are down. If you do and you don’t well then sucks to be you because those moments are the best ever. Today was one of those standstill moments. Aside from running an errand (won’t say how long I was gone for) I had the opportunity to chat it up with a co-worker (thank you girl for the inspiration).

What better topic to discuss while waiting for the computer system to come back on line then men and relationships. While my relationship life may be complicated officially I am single she is most definitely single and looking. Her being single like most of us at the end of the day…real talk is solely her choice because she is not with the bullshyt baggage that some men try to bring with them. Now that she is on the dating scene she has become just a tad more vigilant in the type of man she will accept in her life and the behaviors that she will tolerate from jump. In another words she has become cautious.

Being cautious isn’t as bad as some HATERS may think. At the end of the day everyone should exhibit some type of caution when embarking on what can be a life altering experience. I mean think about it. Does it really make sense to get burned twice??? If we are honest with ourselves yeah you then we can admit that at some point in our life probably even now we allowed ourselves to become subdued and accepting of man bullshyt. It’s cool, it happens to the best of us and there is no need to go beating yourself over it. The important thing to come to terms with is that when you do decide to kick that baggage to curve make sure you put it out on trash day so that it can’t find its way back to your house that should be the last time you tolerate whatever bullshyt that was going down. There is no need to become that hardcore B*tch that some men complain about. Rather become a woman with standards. By now, you should know the generics of what is acceptable in a relationship if you don’t go buy a book…there are plenty of them out there. At the end of the day it is all about RESPECT SANG it Aretha. If you have a good foundation, then you already know what it is that you deserve…claim it! Put your foot down and acknowledge to yourself that there is no reason why HIStory has to repeat itself. Pull out that pad and paper and write down what it is that you will not tolerate and why you won’t tolerate it. Periodically review that list and make revisions. You may find yourself crossing our or adding more things. At the end it really doesn’t matter as long as you don’t keep going in a desperate circle. Your life should not become what soap operas and reality shows are made of. The reindeer games to the hunters.

It just makes sense to start off as you mean to finish. At the first sign of bad behavior it needs to be addressed. Do not let it fester. That is bad business and will only get you where you were before. Sometimes a pass can be granted but sometimes it is just a no go or as they say on twitter #FAIL. When those behaviors seem like they emulate the “player” mentality that he was so big on you may as well cut your losses. When he tries to play you for some kind of fool pin a tail on him and let him know he’s the donkey now. The fact of the matter is that truthfully, life is really to short. If he can’t come correct then it’s a no bueno for him and like the song goes…on to the next one.



About Divine*Pearlz

As one of my good friends, Carrie Pink (from says, I am a modern day superwoman. In the midst of me being a superwoman I am really down to earth once you get to know me. I love life and try to always live it to the fullest. I love God and try to always honor Him. I am service oriented after all I am a Finer Woman. I love health and have made it my mission in life to pursue degrees that will put me in a position to fight for better health policies for my people. All in all, I'm just me. You can take it or leave it!
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