The misguided child

A few weeks ago, I was approached by a young boy, approximately 13 years of age for a dollar. Here I was minding my business in Target (french accent) and this young African-American Male approaches me (never saw him before) for money. To say that I was shocked was an understatement. I wasn’t in the train where it is apparent that everyone thinks that it is a charity system. I was shopping. Shocked as I was I decided to determine why he needed this dollar before I decided whether I should give it to him. When I asked him, he stated that he wanted to buy a football game but was a dollar short. While I did not approve of him going up to strangers asking for money I understood the desire to want something and be a dollar short (or leave the whole wallet at home by accident). I decided in that moment, that I would give him the dollar and I told him as much.

Now some are wondering why I gave him this dollar. It’s simple. I did not not want to be at the register watching this boy go out in handcuffs over a video game. Granted I do believe that it was totally not cool that this “child” felt comfortable enough to walk up to a stranger and ask for money but the fact of the matter is that he did and I had the opportunity to prevent another black marker against the black man. The truth of the matter is, can I really blame him for walking up to me asking for money?

In a time, when so many children are growing up in broken homes with broken parents are children being taught the values that so many of us can joke about as adults. Lets be real…for the most part none of us would have dared walk up to a stranger asking for money. Hell how about we knew not to walk up to a stranger period. We were raised to be seen and not heard, speak when spoken too. do as I say and not as I do. We understood that it was okay for us to get beat in public and we felt things such as paddles, extension cords, broomsticks, and any other item that was handy when in the split second it was decided to beat us. We understood that we talked to adults in a certain way. If we were in our neighborhood and did something wrong we were in trouble before we even got home. Sometimes we got in trouble right there. That’s how we were raised. Fast forward to today. We live in a world where parents are afraid to beat their children for fear of going to jail. Children feel comfortable being disrespectful to adults. Community parenting no longer exist. If you see something, mind your business. This and so much more has contributed
to the misguided child.

The idea that, “it takes a village to raise a child” for the most part has ceased to exist. The truth is that it does take a village and the children who are raised out of this village are at a disadvantage. Everyone in a village has some unique type of knowledge to share and if a child received this knowledge by the time they reached adulthood they would be a well-rounded individual. For the spiritual person, one would accept that the children of today are a sign of the times. My theory, they may be a sign of the sign but that doesn’t mean that you stop doing what you should. Children need a lot of things but most importantly they need love and discipline. These two things help to shape who they will be as an adult. Hopefully, they will turn out as great as you or I but honestly, I hope they will turn out even better.


About Divine*Pearlz

As one of my good friends, Carrie Pink (from says, I am a modern day superwoman. In the midst of me being a superwoman I am really down to earth once you get to know me. I love life and try to always live it to the fullest. I love God and try to always honor Him. I am service oriented after all I am a Finer Woman. I love health and have made it my mission in life to pursue degrees that will put me in a position to fight for better health policies for my people. All in all, I'm just me. You can take it or leave it!
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